It is said that out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. So why does the heart matter? It is important because what you speak,leads to what you do and what you do ultimately becomes apart of who you are. The flip side to that is also the fact that what you don't speak is harbored and also affects your actions, which ultimately affect your character.

Sometimes in life we do so many things unknowingly and I think one of the biggest things we do unknowingly is leavinglife’s uncomfortable situations unaddressed. In today's society, we've been taught that not speaking on things is a way of dealing with it or toughing it out. But I think it's safe to say that walking around harboring feelings and emotions is more of a hindrance than help. At some point, it starts to change who you are and control everything about you.

Throughout my own life, I've faced several issues that were never spoken on or addressed. I felt like I was being a man and doing what I was supposed to do but it wasn't until things blew up in my face that I realized that I was bringing harm on myself. It wasn't until I slid into a deep state of depression, started second guessing the call on my life, feeling inadequate and feeling worthless that I knew that I had to change how I dealt with things. I started to lose so much and go through so many things all because of my inability to open my mouth and speak on what I was dealing with. I risked friendships, relationships, my future, the call on my life, and more.

I encourage you to take a moment and reflect on your life and the circumstances you’ve dealt with. Think about those things that you have been dealing with or dealt with that have caused your life to take turns and affected you in a way no one will probably ever know. Do you think they could've been handled differently? Think about the hurt and the pain you've carried up to this day and how your life has been affected by it. In the grand scheme of things there's always a better way to handle adversity no matter how intense it is. When we hold things in we allow ourselves to become slaves of our emotions and that's a dangerous place to be in.

To put things into perspective ask yourself is all of the pain, hurt, deceit, lies, heartbreak..etcworth your life? Is it worth your peace of mind? We have to be willing to be more transparent and deal with the things that bother us because the damage that is done when it is overlooked is more extensive as opposed to just outright dealing with it from the beginning. No matter who or what hurt you, you have to know that there's life after it. There's so much more to look forward to and live for. It may hurt for a little while but it gets better. Dealing with the matters of the heart makes it easier for you to move forward. Don't live life holding on to things because it'll leave you bitter and we all know that trials come to make us better.